A passionate motivational speaker and life coach with a new reality-based, no-nonsense approach, Terry Taylor is the designer of a unique strategy for reaching your goals and loving your life. Creator of the CD program, 8 Steps For Reclaiming Your Life, and author of the upcoming book, This Is Your Life: No Apology Needed, her mission is to help you to break free from conflict, confusion and the control of others so you can go after your goals guilt-free, with confidence and joy.

Celebrate Your Personal Freedom

In July we celebrate the birthday of a nation formed to foster human freedom.  

JULY’S BREAK FREE TIP is about how to overcome your fears about freedom so that you can appreciate and enjoy your personal freedom to make yourself a wonderful life.

You as an American live in the freest nation on earth.

  •  Do you RELISH your freedom and use it to further your life?
  • Or do you FEAR your freedom and turn to others to tell you what to do with your life?

A free nation does not just mean that the country is free from the dictatorship of other countries; it means that each individual adult citizen is free from the dictatorship of other people.

What does this mean for you personally?  

  1. It means that nobody else owns your life and you can dream your own dreams, set your own goals, and use your own best judgment as your guide for achieving a fulfilling, happy life.
  2. It means that you have the right to do all these things without forceful interference from other people (including political and religious officials) so long as you yourself don’t forcefully interfere with the lives of your fellow human beings.
  3. It means that you have both the right and responsibility to direct your own life and your fellow human beings have both the right and the responsibility to direct theirs. 

Freedom sounds good, but Responsibility? Here is where FEAR rushes in to turn you against your own freedom: 

  • “Am I capable of taking care of my health and figuring out what I want to do with my life?”
  • “What if I fail to achieve the life I want for myself? I’ll have only myself to blame!”
  • “Is it moral for me to be concerned with my own life? I’m afraid people will think I’m selfish!”

Then TEMPTATION marches in to your rescue:

  • “If I’m not capable then it’s okay for me to depend on other people to take care of me and make my decisions for me.”
  • “If I might fail then it’s better for me to hand over my responsibility for my life to other people – that way I can blame THEM.”
  • “If it’s not moral to concern myself with my own life, then I must turn my back on my freedom and live for others.”

There is a way to face up to such fear and temptation and stay free. 


Step 1: Assert Your Own Independence.  “Growing up” means developing from being a dependent child to being an independent adult. The evidence that you can LEARN to take care of yourself is all around you – millions of mature adults (who came from far worse circumstances than you) take care of themselves. The alternative is to starve – or become a “parasite” on your fellow man (by counting on his charity or by forcing him to support you through government hand-outs.) Taking care of your own self fosters self-respect, productivity and mutually beneficial human relationships, while being a burden on others leads to loss of self-respect, laziness, and mutually harmful human relationships. You can choose whether you are going to remain a child all your adult life or embrace living as a self-reliant, full-fledged, mature human being.

Step 2: Dissolve Your Fear of Failure. Failure is one of your best teachers! It means that you’re striving toward your goals and learning what doesn’t work so you can hone in on what does work. That’s how discoveries are made, inventions are created, and lasting relationships are forged. Everyone has qualms, but we can each CHOOSE to summon the courage to be responsible for our own decisions and actions. It is you who makes that choice: you can choose to let your fear rule your life or you can choose to be motivated by what is important to you.   

Step 3: Recognize That Human Freedom is Moral. It honors the conditions necessary for every person to live as a mature, thinking, productive, happy human being. It is the rule of some people by other people that is immoral – because forcing other human beings to live for you (or being forced to live for others) violates the conditions necessary for living a mature, thinking, productive, happy life. Being concerned with your own life does not mean turning your back on the well-being of others – it means being concerned with ALL the values that make your life worthwhile…including healthy relationships with other human beings made possible by everyone being free! As a child you had no choice, but as a “Grown-Up” you can choose to adopt a harmful morality of forced human sacrifice and slavery, or you can choose to honor a healthy morality of human freedom and fulfillment. 

Freedom means you cannot rule any other adult but yourself — nor can any other adult rule you. It means each of us gets to be in charge of our own life – something new and wonderful in the long history of human subjugation and brutality. 

Happy month of July – and here’s to you using your personal freedom to go after your dreams and love living your life!

I’d love to hear how these steps work for you — feel free to email me at, or post a comment on my Break Free Blog at Please know that you are welcome to share this BREAK FREE TIP via social media or email.

Note: To learn more about being personally free, read This Is Your Life: No Apology Needed, now available at Amazon as an eBook. Also available as a paperback or CD at my website,




4 Responses to “Celebrate Your Personal Freedom”

  1. on July 16th, 2014 5:30 am

    Very intresting tips. Thanks for sharing

  2. Christine Van Brun on July 16th, 2014 9:18 am

    I liked this tip very much. It was specific, clarifying, helpful, and inspiring. You are a person I so admire. Thank you, Terry, for writing this.

    Sorry my feedback wasn’t more specific. The best feedback is specific and example-rich.

    Love you!

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  4. meir ezra genius on July 20th, 2014 5:55 am

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