A passionate motivational speaker and life coach with a new reality-based, no-nonsense approach, Terry Taylor is the designer of a unique strategy for reaching your goals and loving your life. Creator of the CD program, 8 Steps For Reclaiming Your Life, and author of the upcoming book, This Is Your Life: No Apology Needed, her mission is to help you to break free from conflict, confusion and the control of others so you can go after your goals guilt-free, with confidence and joy.

How To Have a Smart-Happy New Year

JANUARY’S BREAK FREE TIP shows you how to be “Smart-Happy” so you can make your New Year a great beginning to enjoying the rest of your irreplaceable life.

Some people think they have to turn off their minds and “get loaded” in order to “party” and have fun. The trouble is they turn what should be a time of life-enhancement and celebration into a time of life-endangerment and regret. But there is a “Smart-Happy” way to have fun without losing control of yourself.

What Does It Mean To Be “Smart-Happy”?

Being Smart-Happy means using your head to make your life wonderful. It means being able to choose between life-enhancing and life-threatening things. Rather than an escape from life through non-stop eating or mindless drinking, Smart-Happy partying is a celebration of life with people who magnify your life.

Your ability to “celebrate” does not come from thin air – it comes from having something to celebrate! Total mind wipe-out is for those who feel they have nothing to celebrate. In order to have something to celebrate, here are the basic things to be smart about:

• Your ASSUMPTIONS, ideas and beliefs about yourself and the world

• Your DREAMS and goals for your life

• Your PLANS for achieving your dreams and goals

• Your ACTIONS to carry out your plans and realize your dreams

• The PEOPLE you work, play, and celebrate with

Smart-Happy partying is a reward for your hard work toward things that are important to you.

How do you know when your life is wonderful? Your life is wonderful when:

1. Your mind and your emotions are in tune with each other.

2. You use your thinking cap to discover the kinds of character traits and actions your happiness requires.

3. You develop those character traits and start doing those things that your happiness requires!

In other words, being “Smart-Happy” means choosing carefully how you spend your time and energy so you can have a healthy, fulfilling, enjoyable life.

A Smart-Happy New Year’s Resolution

Here’s a Smart-Happy New Year’s Resolution: Pay attention to yourself! So many of us are taught to forget ourselves and “live for others” that we stop being true to ourselves and our own dreams. We spend so much of our time and energy on nurturing others that we forget to nurture our own selves. Ask yourself:

• Do you still have your child-like wonder and fascination with the world? Do you still feel excited about being alive and exploring and doing exciting things?

• Or have you become “world-weary,” seeing life as boring or burdensome and viewing the world as an uninspiring place?

Your assumptions about yourself and the world actually shape how you approach your life. For most people, assumptions about life are a carry-over from childhood. If you are feeling “down” about your life, you can always take a look at your assumptions and update them according to your best adult understanding. This is the Smart-Happy way to love living the rest of your life!


Step 1: Develop a Smart-Happy Relationship with the World. Contrary to what many would have you believe, you are not an “enemy” of the Earth. Planet Earth does not depend on you for its existence, but your existence depends entirely on your using the Earth for your survival. Recognize that you are a natural part of the world and that Earth is the fundamental support system for your life. This means you must pay attention to it! You must carefully observe it, explore it, discover how it “works” and determine which kinds of actions harm your life and which kinds of actions nurture your life.

Step 2: Develop a Smart-Happy Relationship with Yourself. No matter how you look at it, turning your back on yourself is unhealthy. If you have had your natural self-concern “pounded” out of you, make a conscious choice to value your one precious life. Recognize that what really matters is that your life is important to you, regardless of whether it is important to anyone else, regardless of your size with respect to the universe and regardless of your being a “minority of one” with respect to the millions of others on this earth.

Step 3: Use a Smart-Happy Way to Gain Knowledge. Knowledge is your life-preserver. But when it comes to grasping the truth, some people want you to “just take their word for it.” As a human being, however, your own mind is your primary tool of survival and neither “feelings” nor “the say-so of others” are reliable sources of knowledge. You can use your mind to discover where your feelings are coming from and to evaluate the say-so of others, but you cannot gain knowledge by using emotions or the words of others as “middle men” between yourself and reality. You must use your own powers of observation, exploration and evaluation to arrive at your own understanding of the nature of things. Being honest with your own sight of reality is the only way to keep your sanity, maintain your integrity, and make healthy, life-supporting choices for living your life.

Step Four: Discover a Smart-Happy Way for You to Conduct Your Own Life. You don’t come with an instruction manual – you must develop your own! Observe which actions are beneficial and which are harmful. Study other people to see which character traits promote a healthy, fulfilling, happy life. Develop those character traits in yourself. Explore what kind of work would be the most meaningful and exciting for you. Develop a vision and dreams for your life. Then strive to fulfill those dreams to bring your vision to fruition!

Step Five: Discover a Smart-Happy Way for You to Relate to Others. History shows us that confinement, slavery, tyranny, robbery, compulsion, coercion, brutality – or any other form of initiating force against one’s fellow human beings – leads to stagnation, poverty, disease, and untold misery and suffering. History also shows us that mutual freedom of action and association for mutual benefit leads to progress, prosperity, health, fulfillment and happiness. This means honoring each individual as a person in his own right – including yourself! It means using defensive force to disable those who initiate force — so you can go after the things that are important for your life and encourage others to go after the things that are important for their lives. Recognize that there is room for all of us and that other people’s successes can inspire you, grow the economy, create more opportunities, and increase your own chances of success.

By paying careful attention to yourself and using the above five steps to give your assumptions a “reality test,” you can make yourself more fully aware, more fully alive, and more fully human!


Note: To learn more about the healthy or harmful assumptions that run your life, read This Is Your Life: No Apology Needed, now available at Amazon as an eBook. Also available as a paperback or CD at my website,


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